Darling: That's What She Said

Darling is a magazine that I want to recommend to all young women! It does a killer job narrating the art of being a woman. I am grateful for my friend JoAnne showing it to me, and also for my sister forwarding on their video series to me.

Darling partnered with Soulpancake(The people who made the viral Kid President video) for a series that followed a panel of women’s discussions on, Power and Purpose, Aging and Death, Parents and Parenting, Perception and Confidence, and  Beauty and Body Image.

All of them have gotten my wheels turning. I have done a lot of self-reflection and reflecting on society and culture. 

The video on ageing and death really stuck a chord with me. I have always looked forward to ageing, as strange as that may sound. Mostly age 32. That’s the perfect age if you ask me. That is when I will have it all together. The job, the husband, the home, and the confidence. But truth be told, none of that is guaranteed. The vulnerable side of me admits that I share many of the fears that the women in the video have.

I connected most strongly with the woman who worries that as she ages she will no longer be desired.  It too, scares me that I will never be as young, or pretty, or sexually desirable as I am now. And if this is my peak of sexual desirability and I’m not with anyone now,  am I going to end up  32 and alone? A real fear. But what scares me more is that being a sexual object is paramount in how I define being desirable.  Ladies, there is so much more to be desired within in us!  This is truth! But societies mistruths have such a strong grip on our hearts and minds.  How do we overcome this?  I'd make a much better blogger if I had the answer!

The videos have inspired me to have more meaningful conversations with the people around me. Why just observe them? We should be having them friends!!  Let’s get real… what scares you about aging and death, when has society told you that you aren’t enough, what will you do differently than your parents in your lifetime?! I want to know the hearts of the people around me, and not just the hearts of women. Gentleman? I desire relationships where our time together is  an open forum where there is honesty, curiosity, humor, and growth!